Dad Ran Away—Then We Thought He Had Died

Get the word out!

Over the past several years my wife and I became close friends with a special couple from our church. The husband, Fredy, is Peruvian, his wife, Leona, is American.

Nearly every time we visited their house they would goad us to join them on a trip to Peru. “You should go with us,” they would encourage. And they would tell us what they experienced on previous trips. They would show us photos of their relatives in the mountains. They would tell us about the challenges they faced on previous visits.

Time went on. They would remind, “You should go with us.”

Then in late January, I got a text message from Leona, a former travel agent. “I can hardly contain myself…” She went on to tell about drastically reduced airline tickets to Lima, Peru. And she confirmed the numbers by adding, “No, this is not a typo.”

The implication: Here is your chance. You gotta do it.

The four of us had all had enough travel experience to know that deals on airline tickets are time sensitive. If we don’t take timely action the deals go away—without explanation, without apology.

My wife and I had definitely been interested to join them, but we hadn’t made a conclusive decision. Now—we were forced to decide.

We hardly even decided—we just bought the tickets.

Though we had several months to prepare, the clock began ticking. We ran a small Krispy Kreme fund-raiser through several local businesses to help pay for the car rental. That turned out well.

As time went on we sensed there was something special brewing for this trip. We decided we would share our trip plans and story with the church, but it won’t be a ploy to get funds.

Since it was becoming obvious God is very much in this trip He will also amply provide all the resources needed. We were amazed at the provision.

The day came.

We were ready.

Traveling was not new to me–this was my country Number 14. However, in spite of all my traveling, Peru had never been on my radar. Now, here I was. Lima, Peru. What a delight. Yet I felt a weight and responsibility.

We had three main objectives for the trip:
1. Meet Fredy’s father, who lived in the jungle.
2. Meet Fredy’s mother, who lived in the mountains.
3. And, deliver a specially-made recording of the gospel in Fredy’s mother’s native tongue of Quechua, provided by faithcomesbyhearing.com.

Our first stop after arriving in the capital city of Lima was the jungle.

And, yes, jungle it was. We had several opportunities to get stuck with our rental vehicle, but avoided those opportunities. Mud puddles, narrow paths, dangerous drops. Finally we parked our vehicle and walked the rest of the way.

The Meeting
Fredy’s father had previously lived in the mountains many kilometers away. Then one day he ran away. Things in his life caused him to take measures that took him into the jungle where he also started a new family. Fredy, his siblings, and his mother didn’t hear from him for years. They thought he had died.

Fredy and his brother Felix had spent most of their lives away from their father. Fredy is 31 years old. About ten years ago, Fredy had met his biological father for the first time in his adult life. This trip was his second meeting.

Now, here we were.

Fredy’s half-sisters had instructed us that the house was “up there by the banana trees.”

Before we made it to real narrow and muddy walking path, Fredy’s father came down the trail to meet us. What a glad reunion moment! He gave us all a hug and a kiss. What a moment for the earth to stand still. Wow!

Peru Jungle Photo_Reunion in Peru Dad Father Reconciliation

The reunion of father and son. The moment frozen in time.

But we needed to keep moving. The daylight was dwindling away. We had business to do.

The scene at the home of Fredy’s father, was a jaw-dropper. Feast for the eyes. Far removed from other people. Remote.

We were welcomed by barking dogs.

After all these weeks of planning and imagining, now we beheld for the very first time what we never imagined.

Peru Jungle Photo_Tiger Leopard Cat Mountain La Merced Peru

This is the tigre, the mini pet leopard.

He had killed an armadillo and the shell hung over the rafter. He killed a leopard that was responsible for killing a neighbor’s calf. He showed us the pelt. They had a pet monkey and pet mini leopard (or tigre, as they called it) in their cooking shack. A pet turtle. Turkeys. Dogs. Yes, the jungle indeed.

However, the most historic part of the whole trip was still coming.

At the Table
We were ushered into the small cooking shack to a special meal of caldo de gallina, which is chicken soup. (Literally translated, the name means, broth of hen.) Accompanied by cooked yucca, or cassava. It was yummy.

It was not the food alone that made the meal so special. History was unfolding.

My job was to document the happenings of this important trip. I took a new little GoPro camera to grab footage. I couldn’t fathom the importance of the meeting, but I knew I would not be tasting any chicken soup before I had this history-making table of reconciliation well-documented.

Fredy’s first meeting with his father had been rushed, and my friend wasn’t able to ask his burning questions. Now we would not be rushed as we sat at the table. The table where all parties are vulnerable. (When are we more vulnerable than when we eat and enjoy a meal together?) Indeed, this was the table of reconciliation and reunion and peacemaking.

We enjoyed a most delightful dining experience. Friendly and hearty conversation.

What would be the first personal thing to talk about? What would Fredy or Felix ask first?

What about the direction each of their lives has taken? What would they tell? Who would take the lead? Who would initiate the hard questions?

We enjoyed the delicious food.

Then I asked through Fredy’s translation how his dad felt about our visit. That opened the way for more questions and personal conversation.

Fredy, his brother Felix, and their dad had an extended moment of honesty.

Why did you leave? Did you ever think of us after you left? Why didn’t you make contact with us?

It was a lengthy conversation. They were on a quest to know the truth. They wanted the gnawing in their minds quieted. They spoke their minds, in peace, with grace and respect.

All their questions were answered. They found peace. They found rest. After all those years of questions and wondering, they finally started to know their father.

The mental captives were set free. The bridge was built.

Peru Jungle Photo_Hospitality Reconciliation Cooking Shack La Merced Peru

The cooking shack—home to the table of reconciliation. What a special place. A history-maker.

Hospitality
We spent several hours around their jungle home visiting the mountain-side coffee plantation. Walking the mountain to his pasture fields. Picking guava fruit. Taking pictures while holding the stinky little tigre.

Then before we left they treated us to tasty fried plantain. We washed it down with brewed espresso raised on their own farm and roasted in their own kitchen. What delightful jungle hospitality.

Next Visit
Now weeks later, Fredy wants to go back. He did indeed meet his father. He wants to know him better.

 

Do you know of any similar experiences where a parent and child were separated for years and then met? What happened? Please tell us the story in the comment section below.

[This is only our first adventure on this eventful two-week trip. More adventure stories coming.]

  • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

    What a cool story and leap of faith. Thank you for sharing it.

  • http://storiesmadepowerful.com/ Arlen Miller

    Thanks so much for your visit and your comment, Mr. Dan. I appreciate it.

    • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

      Glad to read and comment:)

  • http://williamtshepo.blogspot.com/ William Tshepo

    Wow, wonderful post and very relatable. Cooking shack, barging dogs and the jungle. All this reminds me of when I was still a young boy living with my grandmother and there was a cooking shack…wow, amazing.
    I also know of a story of my aunt whom I knew through my mom, who had abandoned my cousins, two girls and one boy, cause she was a heavy drinker.
    The first born, who is a girl, lived with us and my grandmother, the second born, the boy, was adopted by a rich family that even took him to a bodying school that taught food and beverage, he was still young, around 8-years-old. The last born died after some sickness, I don’t remember what kind cause I was still young.
    My aunt only had the possibilities of meeting the first born but she always delayed and the was no way that she was going to meet the boy cause she wasn’t reaching out either.
    Finally, my aunt passed away and that was the only time or chance that the boy and the girl had to meet her, when she couldn’t talk or even see, when she had died.

    • http://storiesmadepowerful.com/ Arlen Miller

      Mr. William, Thanks so much for stopping by and thanks for your comment.

      What a sad story about your aunt. That makes it all the more urgent to pursue contacts like that as soon as possible.

      What do you think is the best way to help someone make those contacts happen… and expedite it before it’s too late?

  • http://thoughthouse.org/ Micah

    Wow, what an incredible experience! Well done for choosing to take the step, goes to show how much of what we’re reticent about doing – those things that are out of the ordinary – are endeavours that often lead to some of the most valuable experiences in our lives.

    The trip sounds like it was so exotic and exciting but my favourite part of what you’ve described is dinner at the table, with Freddy and his father. That sounds like it must have been a pretty special moment. Hats off for choosing to go Arlen. Here’s to taking risks.

    • http://storiesmadepowerful.com/ Arlen Miller

      You are very kind, Mr. Micah. Thanks so much for your visit and comment.

      You are a great encouragement—both in your kind words and in the work you do on your own site. A big thank you, Sir. Without question, life is an adventure. I love living it. :)

  • http://edoyama.wordpress.com Ed Oyama

    Wow, what an awesome story, Arlen. I’ve done more traveling in Asia – and we don’t really have anything like a jungle out here! What a reconciliation – and in what sounds like a totally otherwordly place. Thanks for sharing the story – and thanks to the Father for the bridges being rebuilt.

    Looking forward to part II!

    What are you the other countries you’ve been to, anyway?

    • http://storiesmadepowerful.com/ Arlen Miller

      Yes, indeed. Bridge-building was going on. Amazing experience. Thanks so much for your visit to my site, Mr. Ed.

      In your corner of the world I have visited India, Nepal, China, and Hong Kong.

      • http://edoyama.wordpress.com Ed Oyama

        My pleasure! Sorry for the late reply, I’ve been doing some travelling too. :) any plans to go back?

        • http://storiesmadepowerful.com/ Arlen Miller

          No plans right now, but I have too much navigationally-oriented blood to let it lay. Where has your traveling taken you?

          • http://edoyama.wordpress.com Ed Oyama

            nice nice. so far, kazakhstan, kyrgyzstan, mongolia, turkey, china, south korea, and canada.

  • http://contemplativemonk.com/ Bob Holmes

    Awesome story Arlen! Thank you for sharing.

    • http://storiesmadepowerful.com/ Arlen Miller

      My pleasure, Mr. Bob. Thanks so much for your visit and comment.

  • http://www.paulsohn.org/ Paul Sohn

    What a cool and uplifting story! Thanks for sharing!

    • http://storiesmadepowerful.com/ Arlen Miller

      Thanks so much for your visit, Mr. Paul. I appreciate it.

  • http://zechariahnewman.com/ Zechariah Newman

    Powerful story Arlen. Love the blog.

    • http://storiesmadepowerful.com/ Arlen Miller

      Thanks a bunch for your visit, Mr. Zechariah. I’m looking forward to our conversation today.

  • http://www.bemoreuniversity.com/ Jimmy Burgess

    Arlen, this is a powerful story. Your writing had me visualizing the table where you sat. I just found your blog and look forward to future posts. Keep up the great work.

    • http://storiesmadepowerful.com/ Arlen Miller

      Thank you, Mr. Jimmy. Great to hear from you. Thanks so much for your visit and your encouragement.

  • Ruben Troyer

    Sounds like you had an awesome time. My recent travels to Europe made me want to do even more traveling and Peru was definitely a destination that Came to mind.